Jan 25 2009
All for me!
Where does my obligation to baby daddy end? I am aware that if the boys need medical attention I should notify him…but what about when they learn a new word? or learn how to do count? or learn their first color? Am I obligated to notify their father when they do something wonderful?
Part of me, the not so bitter/angry part that doesn’t think back on the past year spent on my own with my boys, thinks it would be nice to let him know when they do something for the first time. They’re working very hard to learn how to ride their trikes…even though they haven’t mastered it yet, they keep trying. Do I have to send him a text when they succeed?
Why should he be allowed to enjoy the wonder that the boys are? Why should he be made aware of their accomplishments? If he wanted to know…wouldn’t he be asking? or better yet, wouldn’t he be here to witness it?
I know he did the best thing for ALL involved when he left. I am over the pain of being left, now…I am stuck in the disbelief that someone could walk away from two wonderful, amazing, precious little boys for ANY reason.
I would not leave the boys for anything in the world. At least not without the fight of my life. I even told their father once that I never want to be in love…because if love makes you walk away from your children I don’t ever want any part of it. And that is precisely what he did. Whether he wants to admit it or not. It’s a fact. He left them here…for me to raise. And, I accept that and I thank him for that. But, I do not believe I am obligated to let him in on the joys of that!!
If they need medical attention, I will let him know. When they pretend to talk on the phone, or put words together to make sentences, or help me by bringing their dishes from the table…well, those I’m keeping just for me!
